I tend to have very dry skin in the winter. Lots of people do. My legs especially tend to be very dry because I do not bother to put lotion on them consistently.But do you want to know something?

I don't really care.

Sure, for fancy events where my legs will be showing, I might want to put some lotion on, but what fancy event in the winter requires bare legs? I usually wear tights, anyway. Thus, my legs are ashy most of the time. Along my ankles, it's especially bad. It may even be eczema down there, but I just can't muster up the fucks to worry about the skin on my legs that much because they are working and that's good enough for me.

While I wouldn't call it a full-out "fight", I do believe that I have just had an "altercation" with my mother this afternoon on the state of my legs. I had just taken a nice bath, and she suggested that I put on lotion after taking a bath. I insisted that I didn't want to do it, and she pretty much acted like I was an idiot, backhandedly saying "because you're so smart" in a sarcastic way.I am pissed off about this for various reason. The main reason is because she is taking on the role of body police and I am not in a position to call her out in the way that I would like to ("it's my fucking body"). I am pretty much dependent on her for shelter and support right now, and it's very frustrating in this situation because I can't leave the situation when it is as toxic as this.

I need to figure out a way to tell her that her attempts to control what I do with my body are demeaning, annoying, and insulting in a way that is polite and will have her actually stop doing it. I've tried explaining that body policing is bad. I've tried telling her that I don't give a fuck about looking perfect 24/7. I've tried those things, but they aren't really getting to her in these moments of cruelty. Does anyone have ideas for how I can get the point across?

ETA:

Thank you so much, everyone, for your advise! I'm putting some distance between us as we speak, and she has apologized, but in the "I'm sorry that I have offended you" kind of way. It's a step, I guess.