I am a huge fan of Dr. Nerdlove. He's aimed primarily at men, but his romantic advice is comforting, sweet, amusing, and practical. He gave me the courage to try OKC when I was lonely and not meeting anyone, and I have a wonderful boyfriend to show for it. He took on the "nice guy" syndrome. He shows why PUA doesn't work as well as working on a few basic skills. He's just fantastic, and he's a great male ally/male feminist. Even if you disagree with the power a male voice has, I have to admit that my male friends who are stuck in some of these negative cycles are more likely to listen to him than to me, because he has a movement and followers behind him, and he speaks from his own experience in dating. (ETA: Reiterating, this is absolutely problematic, but I'm willing to work within the paradigm if it gets more guys taking baby steps toward understanding their own problematic behavior.)

Anyway, he's taken on gaslighting/crazymaking and explains exactly why it's problematic to call women crazy, and other problematic behaviors. He explains it well, in a calm and non-accusatory tone. He gives examples of his own mistakes and how he learned, and he's just lovely about it. We've all heard this before, but I just want to highlight a wonderful asset to our fight (and a wonderful asset for those of us in the dating game, male or female!)

Here's the article, on his blog:

On Labeling Women Crazy