ETA: We spoke with the principal this morning. Little GV was nervous and told her story like a champ. The principal's first response: "I know his mother." Then a comment about how this is a bit of a sticky wicket because it didn't happen during school, but she indicated pretty clearly that she's on it. She also resonated with my point about how these words target girls in a sexualized way. That was very encouraging. She also told kiddo to tell her about *anything* that boy does, "even a dirty look."

Since the incident didn't happen at school, I don't know if suspension is possible. A suspension would probably just be a three-day vacation. I'm not done with this, but I'll wait.

Thanks to all of you for your support. I'm really sorry that so many of you had to go through this and worse. I had a little of it when I was a kid. My mom worked with his dad and she knew both of them were dicks. I also wrote my master's thesis on workplace bullying, something I've also experienced. I understand the wreckage bullying leaves, both from childhood and in adulthood.

My daughter is an amazing person. I've never been one to wish that she could stay little because watching her become a person has been the greatest joy of my life.

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I can't even with this shit. Please do not mainpage.

Little GV is almost 11. She's an awesome kid. You can have a pretty high level discussion with this kid. She's also snarktastic.

Today two little assholes approached her and her friend at the place where the girls go for after school care (they are not members) and called them "fat whores" and "slutty bitches." There was more going on, but that was the worst of it. After telling them to leave them alone my girl grabbed her friend's hand and they went inside to let a staff member know. Apparently, the boys were shitty to the staff, too.

These kids (brothers) are around 10 and 12. Let that sink in a sec.

The younger one is in my daughter's class and she's had trouble from him before. She was also bullied at another school a few years ago.

I am so proud of her for the way she handled herself and the situation. She didn't give them anything to use against her (eg., tears) and she put an end to the confrontation herself and brought in someone else to help.

I am so fucking angry. Those boys wouldn't have used those words to attack another boy (you call them "pussies"). They used words they know are intended to hurt GIRLS and might not even really know what they mean. I doubt anyone specifically told them that those particular words are intended to hurt girls, but obviously they understand that. The girls understand on some level that what's said is shameful, too.

"Why would they say that? Why would someone do that?" The only answer I could come up with is "I don't know," which is the truth. I don't know why. Yes, they learned it somewhere and might do it to make themselves feel better, more powerful or cool. But, really, why the FUCK would you say that shit to a little girl?

Why is it that I even have to answer those questions?

I'm staying home tomorrow and we're going to talk to the principal in the morning. I trust her and she knows Little GV. I might have to go to another school or the district to deal with the one who doesn't go to her school. I'm letting kiddo stay home, too. I know her very well and she definitely needs a day. She's always had big emotions and this was a pretty big emotional dump for her. Tough, but super sensitive like her mama.

I'll find a way to rend those little fuckers. This might be a bit of a challenge if their parents are not appropriately offended, but we'll burn that bridge when we get there.

ETA: I totally forgot that there was apparently some racist shit directed toward one of the other kids! That's what made me worry even more about the asshole status of the parents.