Do the dishes once in three months, then give me a lecture on the order in which we put things in the dishwasher vs. letting them soak.

Yes, I've scrubbed that same grill pan you scrubbed tonight many, many times. It's not a mystery. Yes, it gets caked when grilling. I do this stuff every week, all the time. You do it once in a very great while. Please save the advice.