Such a bummer.

This person I met is pretty damn awesome. He pays super close attention to the things that I say and then surprises me with the chocolate I like, the wine I drink and the kinds of movies I enjoy. Our dates have all of the things I love in mind. He lets me wear his slippers in the snow when we go out for a smoke. He has the cutest pug on earth. He's SUPER FUCKING CUTE. Basically, he's almost perfect for me.

So you can imagine my disappointment when we slept together and it was pretty much the fucking worst.

  • 2 words: jack hammer.
  • Every time I tell him I'm about to cum or I let him know he's doing something right, he starts doing something totally different and hammering away at my vag like a maniac. UGH.
  • Just...too fast. Too rushed. I really like a lot of momentum to build up. But from second one it's like a race. He doesn't cum quick but it feels like that's his goal.
  • Porn star positions.

Maybe he doesn't have a ton of sexual experience? I mean, that's totally okay with me. But having had the kind of sex with someone that was like the stars fucking aligned and it just worked beautifully, I'm starting to think that maybe there really is such a thing as not being sexually compatible with someone. Can this be fixed?

I know that I'm probably going to say something, but what? I don't want to hurt his feelings. But I'm also not prepared to just keep having dreadful sex with him either. In my 20's I'd have sucked it up and continued to be unfulfilled. But at 31? Nope. I don't have the patience. But I also don't know how or if this can be fixed. Have any of you ever been here before? Did it get worked out? Or did you have to dump someone who is otherwise really great?