So, as I've mentioned before, I'm on the academic job market. And it is an evil, soul-destroying process full of sadness and rejection. But, the other part about it is that you have a lot of friends going through the process as well. Sometimes you're happy for them...sometimes you're jealous. Sometimes you are in direct competition, sometimes you aren't. But right now... I'm finding it really hard to be supportive of a friend who is complaining to me about how she's a total failure because of being rejected from a job. A JOB I WAS ALREADY REJECTED FROM MONTHS AGO.
How do you be supportive to a friend when you kinda want to hit them upside the head for being completely self-centered and insensitive? On one hand... I understand the disappointment and rejection hurt. It sucks. But... it's tough to be supportive when someone wants to whine to you about how they are a total failure when by their definition, they are also telling you that you are a worse failure.